Welcome to our Wedding blog

Hello friends and family and internet strangers!  Welcome to our blog concerning our wedding.  Here you will find all sorts of great information, including wedding details and plans, pictures, hotel information, how to RSVP, and other things that may be of interest in planning for our life celebration (which is a cocktail party/gigantic bash!) scheduled for Saturday, November 7th, 2009.

Scroll down or click on the links at the right side of the page to find out all about it!  We hope to see you there!

Published in: on January 3, 2009 at 5:49 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Well, We’re Married!

It feels a lot like living together did.  🙂  We’re both very happy.

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Party Songs

This is a list of songs that we’re playing at our party 11/7/09.  All of the songs mean something to us and we feel they fit us.

Songs for party:

REM Be Mine

REM You Are The Everything

REM At My Most Beautiful

Erasure Chains of Love

Aha Take on Me

David Bowie Golden Years

David Bowie Heroes

Cake Never Never Gonna Give You Up

Cake Love You Madly

Fergie Clumsy

Jamie Lidell A Little Bit of Feel Good

Jamie Lidell Another Day

Hercules and Love Affair Blind

Natalie Merchant Kind and Generous

Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds There She Goes My Beautiful World

Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds No More Shall We Part

She and Him I Was Made For You

She and Him Sweet Darlin’

She and Him I Should’ve Known Better

Tears for Fears Head Over Heels

Tears for Fears Sowing the Seeds of Love

Smashing Pumpkins Tonight, Tonight

Lee McDonald We’ve Only Just Begun

The Proclaimers I’m Gonna Be (500 Miles)

Rufus Wainwright April Fools

Rufus Wainwright The One I Love

Rufus Wainwright The Origin Of Love

Elton John Your Song

Madonna Deeper and Deeper

Madonna Crazy for You

Feist 1 2 3 4

Feist My Moon My Man

Feist I Feel it All

The Aquabats Lovers of Loving Love

Sixpence None The Richer Kiss Me

Modern English I Melt With You

When In Rome The Promise

Thompson Twins Hold Me Now

The Police Every Little Thing She Does is Magic

Tom Tom Club Genius of Love

The Cure Just Like Heaven

The Cure It’s Friday I’m In Love

The Cure Lovecats

The Cure The Walk

The Cure Inbetween Days

The Cure Why Can’t I Be You

The Cure Close to Me

The Cure High

The Cure Mint Car

The Cure Just Say Yes

The Cure Love Song

Madness It Must Be Love

Thomas Dolby She Blinded Me With Science

Talking Heads And She Was

Talking Heads Once in a Lifetime

Depeche Mode Just Can’t Get Enough

The Pretenders Message of Love

The Colourfield I Can’t Get Enough of You Baby

The Red Hot Chili Peppers Show Me Your Soul

Soup Dragons I’m Free

White Stripes We’re Going to be Friends

Mika Love Today

Daniel Johnston True Love Will Find You in the End (Beck Cover)

Daniel Johnston Love Wheel

Daniel Johnston Love Will See You Through

Kathy McCarty Livin’ Life

Kathy McCarty Golly Gee

Kathy McCarty Love Wheel

Emily Zurzik Love Wheel

Flaming Lips Do You Realize

Flaming Lips With You

Flaming Lips When You Smile

Soltero Communist Love Song

Adem You and Moon

Kylie Minogue Love at First Sight

Paul Weller You Do Something To Me

Pizzicato Five Baby Love Child

My Morning Jacket Just One Thing

Velvet Underground I’m Sticking with You

The Reindeer Section If Everything Fell Quiet

Ash Shining Light

Wilco I Got You

Bjork It’s Oh So Quiet

Pete Townshend Let My Love Open the Door (original)

Pete Townshend Let My Love Open the Door (E cola mix)

The Darkness I Believe in a Thing Called Love

Arrival Kiss from a Rose

Ingrid Michaelson The Way I Am

The Good Life Under A Honeymoon

Bobby Darin Beyond The Sea

Bobby Darin Your Love Keeps Lifting Me Higher

Edith Piaf La Vie en Rose

Dorothy Lamour It Had To Be You

Sarah Brightman Unexpected Song

Love Changes Everything Aspects of Love

The Turtles Happy Together

Don McLean And I Love You So

The Association Never My Love

The Association Cherish

Sonny and Cher All I Ever Need is You

Fleetwood Mac You Make Loving Fun

Fleetwood Mac Say That You Love Me

Stevie Wonder You Are the Sunshine of My Life

Stevie Wonder For Once In My Life

Chicago Just You ‘n’ Me

Chicago Colour My World

Chicago Beginnings

The Kinks You Really Got Me

The Kinks All Day and All of the Night

Spinners I’ll Be Around

Redbone Come and Get Your Love

Zeigeist Neverending Love

A Flock of Seagulls Space Age Love Song

Smashmouth Whole Lotta Love

The American Breed Bend Me, Shape Me

Cheap Trick If You Want My Love

Bellamy Brothers Let Your Love Flow

Joan Jett Love is All Around

The Troggs Love is All Around

Elvis Burnin’ Love

Roger Daltrey The Price of Love

Andy Williams Love Story

Ohio Players Love Rollercoaster

David Cassidy I Think I Love You

The Who Love Reign O’er Me

Cream Sunshine of Your Love

Paul McCartney Silly Love Songs

Beck (Album- The Information) Think I’m In Love

Crystal Waters 100% Pure Love

Michael Franti and Spearhead Say Hey I Love You

Black Eyed Peas I Gotta Feelin

Maroon 5 Sunday Mornin

The Dickies Eep Opp Ork Ah Ah (Means I Love You)

Antony and The Johnsons Crazy in Love

Antony If It Be Your Will

Real McCoy Another Night

Cece Peniston Finally

KC and the Sunshine Band That’s The Way I Like It

The Emotions Best of my Love

The Hues Corporation Rock the Boat

James Brown I Got You (I Feel Good)

Dead or Alive You Spin Me Round (Like A Record)

Pelle Carlberg I love you imbecile

XTC Mayor of Simpleton

Drew Vics Physics for Two

Rick Astley Never Gonna Give You Up

Neil Diamond I’m a Believer

Neil Diamond You Got To Me

New Radicals You Get What You Give

Letters to Cleo I Want You To Want Me

The Knack Heartbeat

Sheriff When I’m With You

INXS Never Tear Us Apart

Speck Conventional Lover

Billy Joel Just the Way You Are

Billy Joel For the Longest Time

The Cars Just What I Needed

Cyndi Lauper Time After Time

The Doors Light My Fire

The Doors Hello, I Love You

The Doors Touch Me

Jim Croce Time in a Bottle

Leo Sayer You Make Me Feel Like Dancing

We The Kings Check Yes Juliet

Queen You Take My Breath Away

Ben Lee We’re All in This Together

Bruce Lee Band She’s an Angel

Gloria Estefan Everlasting Love

Peter Zaremba Love Delegation

The Faces Ooh La La

The New Standards Love is the Law

The Seekers I’ll Never Find Another You

The Seekers A World Of Our Own

The Suicide Machines What I Like About You

The Hippos Our Lips Are Sealed

The Bouncing Souls Don’t You Forget About Me

Grass Roots Sooner or Later

Climax Precious and Few

Zibra Zibra 2, 3, 4, 5 Infinity

Songs that we added (non-love songs):

Three Dog Night Shambala

Hot Chip Over and Over

TV on the Radio Golden Age

Rare Earth I Just Want To Celebrate

Published in: on November 7, 2009 at 3:33 pm  Leave a Comment  

My Bouquet

Well, I made my own bouquet today, as we’re getting married this afternoon…
Victor thought it would be easy, and I thought it would be very difficult.  It turns out it was neither, it wasn’t that hard to make, but it wasn’t a piece of cake either…  The smaller lilies, I don’t recommend them for DIY bouquets, their stems just aren’t tough enough to stick into the foam…

The large stargazer lily was a cinch, and that’s just how I wanted it to look!  It opened up last night for me as a special treat.   The small orange roses were very easy to insert, so I highly recommend those for bouquet making.  The bottom is ecalyptus leaves and the top and throughout has a smattering of orange and yellow wax flowers.  (I have no idea what the heck those are, but they’re cute.)


Published in: on October 26, 2009 at 4:09 pm  Leave a Comment  


In lieu of a guestbook, attendees at the party will be able to make their own scrapbooking page or item to be placed in our wedding scrapbook.

Materials with a fall theme will be available on all of the guest tables, and guests are encouraged to be as creative (or not) as they would like to be!

wedding scrapbook

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You can RSVP in two ways:

Post a comment HERE!  (Comment link is at the bottom of the post.)

Email crystaldervetski@hotmail.com

Please feel free to bring guests/dates/family members to the party.  The more the merrier!

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Victor and I do not wish to receive any gifts, as we are established in our lives and have everything that we need.  We want all of our family, friends, and acquaintances to know that we truly do not expect any gifts, and that your presence at our celebration party is all we could ever hope for.  For those who still feel the need to give:

Full shelves at ECHO Food Shelf.

Full shelves at ECHO Food Shelf.

In lieu of gifts, we will be collecting donations to the ECHO Food Shelf of Mankato, MN. (Please follow that link to the food shelf’s website for more information.)  Since our party takes place just before Thanksgiving, we feel it’s perfect timing!  Let’s use this wonderful time in our lives to make a difference to others in our community.

Items ECHO doesn’t buy, but gladly accepts as donations to give out:

  • Baby items:
  • Diapers, Wipes, Baby Shampoo, Baby Lotion, and Baby Food

  • Cleaning Supplies:
  • Laundry Detergent and Dish Soap

  • Snacks:
  • Chips, Cookies, Crackers and Candy

  • Drinks:
  • Coffee, Tea and Juice

  • Personal Hygiene:
  • Shampoo, Toothbrushes Toothpaste, Deodorant, Toilet Paper, Feminine Napkins, Tampons, Razors, Shaving Cream

    Donating Money:
    If you are interested in helping the ECHO Food Shelf, donating money allows them to buy more food items than could be purchased by individuals. Because of their status as a regional food shelf, they are able to purchase the following items at a significantly reduced rate from the Second Harvest Food Bank:

    Cereal Vegetables Pasta Rice
    Peanut Butter Fruit Soups Beans
    Tuna Milk Meat

    Through your monetary donation, you will be providing a significant number of these items to be given out to needy families.

Money donations may be brought to the party or mailed to:
PO Box 3212
Mankato, MN 56002

(There is also a pay pal link on their website for money donations.)

Published in: on May 2, 2009 at 9:28 pm  Leave a Comment  

The name game…

Now THAT is something we can agree on!

Steam Punk Robots: Now THAT is something we can agree on!

Truthfully, I don’t feel strongly about changing my name OR keeping it the same, so it’s staying the same.

Celebration Party

We are having a celebration party on Saturday November 7th 2009 from 7:00PM-10:30PM at The Loose Moose Saloon and Conference Center in Mankato, MN.  (This space used to be Chevy’s for any old-school Mankato folks…)

The Loose Moose Saloon and Conference Center

119 South Front Street, Mankato MN 56001

We went to look at the conference room last week, and it’s remodeled very nice.

We are not having a traditional reception, this is just a party to celebrate our lives together and to share that with our family, friends, and many others who have touched our lives.  There will be snacks and a cash bar.

Victor and I are truly people who are happy just to have you there to celebrate with us!  Literally, your presence is our present.



Published in: on January 4, 2009 at 7:15 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Our Wedding Ceremony


Victor and I both feel that weddings are a private matter instead of a show for others.  We plan on marrying with only ourselves and our minimum of two witnesses, and a Humanist Celebrant as an officiant.

Humanist Celebrant:  Paul Heffron

Witnesses:  Eric Bunde and Noreen Hruby

The wedding will take place on our 3 year anniversary, two weeks prior to the celebration party.  The venue is the Marjorie McNeely Conservatory at Como Park in the amazingly beautiful Sunken Garden.  This is a place I remember from when I was young, and I think it’s beyond gorgeous:

Sunken Garden at Marjorie McNeely Conservatory

Sunken Garden at Marjorie McNeely Conservatory

Marriage Ceremony of Crystal Dervetski and Victor Tanner

October 26, 2009 at the Como Park Conservatory Sunken Garden

Opening Remarks by Paul Heffron

This is a very special occasion and fittingly it takes place in an especially beautiful setting.

Marriage is a very personal relationship, but there is a public aspect to it. Our lives and relationships take place in our community. Crystal and Victor are today becoming married in a public and legal sense in accord with the laws of the state of Minnesota. Marriage laws have changed through time and need to change some more, but fortunately they are such now that Crystal and Victor can do their wedding in their own way and enjoy the privileges and benefits of a legal marriage. So this is a very special occasion.

This is also a happy occasion. It’s happy because we celebrate the marriage of two people who are committed to live together in a loving and faithful relationship. Such a relationship is one of the greatest wonders of human experience.

This is a happy occasion also because we celebrate two people who found themselves and matured and then found each other. They are so right for each other. They share interests, values, and goals and have a promising future as a married couple.

This is a happy occasion also because we celebrate here a modern equalitarian-companionship marriage. Unlike the traditional patriarchal marriage, both partners share the rights and responsibilities and the prospect of greater personal fulfillment.

This is a happy occasion and a cause for celebration also because Crystal and Victor as a married couple contribute to their community. Marriage is a case in which one plus one makes something more than two. Individually they contribute, but together they are stronger and can do even more for a better world.

(The following reading is taken from the chapter headed “A Match Not Made in Heaven” in Dan Barker’s book Losing Faith in Faith. I have selected this and put Crystal and Vic’s names in the reading because it seemed so suited to them.)

“To (Crystal and Vic), a marriage is an affectionate agreement between equals, a loving contract between peers that requires no blessing above and beyond the mutual respect, admiration, and trust of two individuals who cannot imagine not spending the rest of their lives together.

“Two notes on the piano, if they are the right two notes, when played together will produce a pleasing sound called harmony, which is dependent on the character of each tone, but which is somehow more beautiful than the individuals apart. Anyone who knows Crystal and Vic as individuals knows that neither of them is apt to sacrifice their individuality for any reason; but you also know that as a couple united in love and common goals, they most often find themselves thinking and acting ‘as one,’ in harmony.

“Both of them know that you cannot give or receive love unless you love yourself first. Marriage is not an institution in which the self is lost: it is a place where the self is found. (Crystal and Vic) have found themselves, with each other, ‘at home’.”


Touchwood.com Rings

Go to the Touchwood Rings website to see examples of their other work.

Finished product, we’re both very excited!


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